Hi Nea!
First, this is a great poem, it is very touching and written with alot of emotion and thought. It's a very strong poem.
When I read it the first time I was going to address all of that, but add that I agree in some areas and disagree with others. After reading it I can say that I can agree with it, however, and this is just me, the boy has to grow up as well!
The part that I noticed I didn't read quite right was the part talking about making it impossible for us to hate. After growing up with my father, brown eyes, over the years and witnessing the kind of physical and emotional pain he put my mother through, as well as my brother and I too, though to a lesser degree, hate is a very close way to put it, especially now with never hearing from him period anymore, for all I know, and truly I hope not, he could be dead. But, as my poem said that I wrote awhile ago, "Though I no longer hear from you, to say that I don't love you would simply not be true; though you've abandoned us without even a clue." So I do agree with that part of your poem after re-reading and thinking, but the level of love is very low compared to the love I have for my true loving family and friends.
This is a great poem though Nea! I simply wanted to explain my response properly to it. peace!--Mike